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Cake day: June 4th, 2023

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  • You’re more than welcome to post on shitty food porn. There’s not a lot of activity and the votes will let you know if it’s the right place (I don’t remove posts unless they’re breaking rules). It kind of has two interpretations - pictures of shitty food (self explanatory) or food porn that’s shitty (ie bad lighting, bad presentation, etc).

    Or let me know if you start an “average food porn” community and I’m more than happy to link it in the sidebar of SFP.



  • I gave up on online dating last year and I won’t be back. If that means I’ll end up dying alone, I’m honestly more comfortable with that idea than suffering though anymore of the bullshit that’s Tinder/Bumble/Hinge/etc. It’s become such a miserable experience for both sides (men and women).

    As someone who had used online dating on and off for 10+ years, I can tell you one of the big problems - money and greed. I know it’s always easy to just “blame capitalism”, but I’ve seen first-hand the paradigm shift from an actual useful service (i.e. a way to meet people that you would otherwise not meet) to the blatant greed it’s become. The dating apps are so obviously profiteering off people’s loneliness it’s fucking disgusting. Back before Match bought everyone up, these services used to actually be okay for what they were.







  • I’ve been trying to kickstart four communities because apparently I’m a masochist, but I’ve posted more in the last month than I did in the last 10 years on reddit. It reminds me a lot of my first couple of years on reddit (circa 2010/2011) and then my posting died off because you’d either get drowned out by the noise (hundreds or thousands of comments) or ignored in favour of a one liner joke.

    I’ve seen a lot of people comparing Lemmy to early reddit, and I don’t necessarily disagree, but I feel like there’s one important distinction between the two. Even early reddit was driven by karma. There just wasn’t as much people >10 years ago. I find the lack of karma on Lemmy refreshing. How it’s gone back to the old forum way of just counting the number of posts is fantastic. It’s a weird habit to break out of though because part of me still wants to go “I got no upvotes, time to delete” or “I’m getting downvotes, better delete my post”.




  • I’m enjoying it so far. I like that it’s not a direct one-for-one clone of reddit (not that it was intended to be). It feels like a combination of older reddit (> 10 years ago, when it wasn’t as active) and old school forums (like how older posts will bump if there’s activity). It makes me want to be more active vs being a lurker.

    I have no intention of going back to reddit. I’ve already deleted RIF from my phone. The 3PA thing was the last straw for me, but I felt like reddit had been going downhill for a while and I think I had been looking for an excuse to fuck off but couldn’t quit cold turkey. Whatever good intentions that company might’ve started with, they’re just a greedy corporation now. They haven’t cared about their users for a while (which is interesting because their users are what create their content. Reddit itself doesn’t create anything).