Here’s some read for you: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eichmann_in_Jerusalem#Banality_of_evil
Yes, an average russian or Israeli person is not likely to have directly participated in the recent events.
The catch, though, it’s that by not opposing the actions of their governments, they DO contribute to the events indirectly. They pay taxes. They work at factories producing weapons. They make the food that the soldiers eat.
On top of that it’s not russian government who’s currently pulling the triggers and dropping bombs. Just regular folks who just follow orders.
Yes, protesting in russia is not easy, but the war keeps going on because the government sees that people aren’t worried too much about it.
And yes, in both countries there are people who actively oppose, but the majority doesn’t.
And that majority is complicit.
That’s pretty much the point of banality of evil - you don’t need an extraordinary assembly of psychopaths to run a fascist regime. All it takes is a group of loud populists, generally discontent crowd and, boom, you have “make Germany great again”.
After ww2 finished, both Germanies discovered that they don’t really have enough people without Nazi past that could run the country. So most folks just went back to work to slightly renamed workplaces.
Does that mean they were not complicit? They were and the winners made sure Germans would learn about what they caused.
I guess the only excuse back the was that they didn’t know better. But we do.